Die Male Doms

On a related note, I remember reading the book “Speak” some time ago and there was this afterword part in the back where the author talked about the book, like her motivations for writing about a rape survivor, what message she had aimed to get across, etc.

And she said that she was really shocked at one point because she received a lot of letters from guys asking why the girl in the story was so sad/upset/traumatised about being raped.

It’s one of the many things that attests to the fact that men cannot empathise with women’s experiences because they cannot see life through the female perspective. Everything in society is built on the male perspective so that male interests are prioritised and men are genuinely confused when women assert the fact that they have a very different one. And that is why a guy can read a heartbreaking story about a rape survivor who expresses her thoughts, emotions, and experiences in a simple yet touching way and still insert himself as the default to which such a narrative should be compared: “I wouldn’t care if a girl came on to me/was rough with me, I don’t get it!”

This is why it’s imperative that men stay out of feminism and female-only spaces. They can’t relate to us because they’ve never learned and they don’t want to learn.

Posted: Sat March 16th, 2013 at 12:53am
Tagged: Speak rape rape culture perspective experiences feminism sexism misogyny male privilege
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   “This is why it’s imperative that men stay out of feminism and female-only spaces. They can’t relate to us because...

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    I agree with everything up until the final paragraph

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    I want to add something to this. “Speak” is possibly my first book that I ever fell in love with. I actually read it in...

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    That still doesn’t definitively answer my questions about trans* inclusion, but all right, then. Bye.

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