I really hate it when people say
“Men shouldn’t call women fat”
“Men shouldn’t abuse women”
“Men shouldn’t rape women”
“Men shouldn’t be sexist”
When really it should be
“Nobody should call anybody fat”
“Nobody should abuse anybody”
“Nobody should rape anybody”
“Nobody should be sexist”
Stop blaming men for everything
I understand the premise behind this argument but I will continue to blame men for a lot of fucking things because: I have never once sprinted down the street at night because a woman was walking too close to me, and I’ve never pulled out my pepper spray and gripped it in my hands as tightly as possible because a woman drove by and shouted something at me while I was walking home alone, I’ve never had a woman guilt me into having sex, I’ve never had a woman hit on me at a bar and continue to hit on me even after I told her I had a boyfriend, I’ve never had a woman endlessly try to convince me to send them nudes, I’ve never had a woman make me feel like I am only my appearance and am worthless without tits. I quit my most recent job because I was sexually harassed constantly, daily, and guess what? it was always men. yes we should all be nice to each other, but I think that maybe men have a teeny bit more work to do than women.
I’ll stop blaming men for everything when they stop being overwhelmingly responsible for everything. The vast majority of people who sexually objectify, abuse, and rape are men and the vast majority of people who are targeted for those things are women. That’s not an accident; that is the result of male-dominated power structures that have been in place for thousands of years. So when you de-gender these issues and pretend that men and women are equally responsible for them, you’re aiding men who silence women for identifying the cause of their oppression. What the fuck do you think social movements like feminism are for if not to eradicate discrimination and violence against a specific group of people by another specific group of people? You’re taking offense to the fact that women point out patterns of male aggression and misogyny to assuage hurt male feelings and you’re wasting your time. Men hate you.